Learning what it takes to maintain a relationship, not that I'm great at, but at least I realized some things are working very well, of which is our focus on the person's strength rather than their weaknesses.
I realized that this is an important thing in a relationship. How can I be unhappy with a person if I'm focusing on his or her positive energy? It would be quite impossible for me to feel 2 emotions at one time. At first, he doesn't buy it, however, after presenting my point of view, he understood my point of view, of which I felt that he agreed as well.
It got me to thinking, what others are doing out there. It's not that I'm opposing on what they are doing, but it somehow does not end in a happy way. I realized that most are cheating their partners, behind their backs, having flings everywhere. They kept telling me that because we are still young in a relationship, therefore, it's different. They shared with me that during their 1st year in a relationship, usually, nothing would happen, which I disagree. I felt that during the 1st year, most of this cheating thing would happen. Because most people won't get used to being with another person and having responsibility out of the sudden when one have been with themselves for quite some time.
Like I share with my dear, the one thing that kept me from doing all these is the guilt that had broken me and my ex's life. Even though it was not really or directly my fault that has cause him such a way, but somehow or rather, I contributed to the cause of it. This particular incident had not only shaped my principles but it also turn my life around knowing that cheating will never get me what I wanted in life, and as well as in relationship.
With this guilt, it did not stall me from moving forward, rather shaped me to be better than who I was before.
Now, typing these down, at this moment, I am so happy and glad that I have found someone whom I felt very deeply that I can spend the rest of my life with. There is no right or wrong decision in life. When we make decision, we make sure that the decision that we make is the right one. I guess, this is so much true.
Most of us would spend a lot of time looking for the right one, or the one, but somehow or rather, I am quite confident that they will take a long long time to find that, or in other words, will never. Just that the principles of the above applies.
Dear, proposing and getting married with you is a commitment and a decision I made. I felt so right with you, and I am very sure that no one in this world would ever replace you. And if one day that I found someone that can, there is nothing wrong with you, but rather with me, because I have stopped bring out the best in you, rather the worse.
Have faith and believe in me, and yourself. We are able to make this relationship work. And we will never regret for giving it our very best till death do us part.
And with this, I am looking forward to our wedding on the 11th of February 2011. I believe we are going to have a fantastic day and we will be a role model to those out there, still searching and thought that PLU relationship will never work on a monogamy ground.
We will prove it to ourselves and to them that it can be done!
I love you. Hugs.
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